Dating an older guy with kids
In addition, if you do not want any (biological) kids of your own, do not assume that just because she has one or more child from a previous relationship that she does not want anymore with you. As a continuation of the above point, one of the hardest changes for many single men who decide to date a woman with a child is realizing they are not in first place. This is a hard adjustment for many men to make because when you’re single and don’t have any kids, you can be as selfish as you want.
People with children are used to (hopefully) putting the needs of their children before their own.
If you want to wait to have a kid until you’re in your early 30s, your older man is going to be about 50.
Having to run around after a 5-year-old is hard work, especially if it’s been that much longer since your man ran around as a 5-year-old. Older people warrant more of it, so while your man’s white hair will give him all kinds of credit with the people you two encounter, you’ll automatically be dismissed as slightly inferior, regardless of your personal attributes.
Further, if you’re not a kid person or don’t want kids, you should not date a woman with kids to see if you’ll change your mind.This may not be the case, but whether it is or not, taking on daily public scrutiny like this is no picnic.It will happen a whole lot earlier for him than it will for you, so you’ll get jealous of his increased free time while he’ll start demanding more of your attention to fill up his long, empty hours, even though you’re still an occupied professional.Save the games for the rest of the single people in the world who do not have the responsibility of looking out for the emotional well-being of themselves and their child. I’m always surprised at how few people discuss this topic upfront.Some women with children do not want any more kids, and this is an awkward conversation to have after you have already exchanged “I love yous” or “I dos.” If you want one or two kids and she already has one or two kids, this is a conversation you should have sooner rather than later.