Dating women who are too shy
In summary, dating a shy guy means a different dynamic, one in which you will be playing more of a leadership role. If you decide you are, double check he is a shy guy (not just a disinterested guy), trust your instincts, then go after him!
While they may be a little harder to court, a good relationship with a quality shy guy can be one of the most rewarding, fulfilling, and loving experiences out there.
Besides, men usually want to work to win you over, too. If dating a shy guy is your aim, you’ll have to be OK playing the traditional ‘masculine’ role during dating. Sometimes, the shy guy will take over, and his confidence in various areas will grow as he gets more comfortable with you. Perhaps you’re willing to make one move on him before deciding you’ve had enough.
However, if you like a guy who can throw you around confidently the first time you’re together, a true shy guy may not be for you. Maybe you don’t mind making the first few moves, but decide that, if he doesn’t do it for you sexually, you pull the plug.
Or maybe, you have no problem getting into a relationship with a shy guy, but long-term need to see his masculine side come through for things to last.
There are numerous permutations, and you have to decide where your line is – i.e.
There’s all sorts of ways to help him with green lights and guide him (hopefully) down the path.
Still, if you’re getting uncomfortable having to do all this or making all the moves yourself, dating a shy guy may not be for you.
This situation should usually set off some alarm bells.
If you pull that on a disinterested guy, you’ll probably get used for sex. Even if you do a couple of these things yourself, most women are happy handing it back to the guy to do the rest.
Making all the moves on a man just leaves them feeling desperate. You’ll likely have to lead him to the bedroom, and depending on the guy, may have to lead the process once you’ve got him there!
You will overcome your shyness soon, when your mind’s ready for it.
After all, it’s just your social anxiety acting up.