Point of dating in college
He wasn’t a child, he wasn’t dumb, he just...didn’t know Amherst College.The College treats freshmen differently because it knows, as I believe we all do intuitively, that freshman year is a time for growth.The Amherst College Sexual Misconduct and Oversight Committee noted a troubling pattern in which “sophomore, junior, and senior men” engage in “predatory behavior with respect to first-year women.” This pattern is the imbalance’s most dire form.A senior exploits the imbalance of power to his own benefit.Of course most senior men and women do not assault first-year men and women. It shares with senior-freshman relationships a common root: a sexual interaction in which one party has more power than the other.
Granted, seniors are not teachers and sex is not painting. In senior-freshman relationships, the freshman doesn’t know he’s a Picasso.a better sense of what she wants from her partner, a better sense of who he is forgoing, a stronger awareness of how this hook-up will be perceived on campus, as well as more minor things: a better support system of friends and (often) more sexual experience.The senior, in short, knows himself better than the freshman could ever hope to.We frown upon teacher-student relationships for precisely this reason.The student is “dazzled” by the teacher; he is unfamiliar with romance; he can’t enter the sexual contract with the same awareness of its implications.